By Dating Guru
spinBalancing|Harmonizing} Parenthood And Single Life
Think about it: After going out on a fantastic date with a woman you’re interested in, isn’t it great to come home to a clean house?
Why does coming home to a sparkling house feel so good? Because your wonderful 5-year-old daughter is due within the hour, thats why. And doesnt she deserve to find her way to her bed without wading through your ripped T-shirts and sweatpants? And thats why, regardless of how you were able to completely focus on your date, the truth is, as a reliable daddy, you cannot escape your roles as a single parent and as a boyfriend. And just like most things in life, to get both of these jobs done correctly, youll need a plan; here are the things youll need to map out when living this double life with the people you love.
Playtime with your child
It doesnt matter what country they live in or what their mother tongue is, all children speak one universal language: the language of Play. And without exception, there is no better bonding pastime than playing with your child. Whether youre on the floor building something with your 3-year-old daughter or tossing around the baseball with your 16-year-old son, playing with your child is the ultimate expression of love and closeness. With each moment of play you are saying to your child, I love you so much I just want to revel in the exact same language you speak.
Playtime with your gal
When it comes to romantic , Im a big advocate of the word fun, because without fun , you know what your relationship is? Its nothing. So whether youre simply walking along some hidden forest trail or taking a road trip down Highway 61 with bitter coffee and glazed doughnuts in-hand, remember to always make fun your final destination.
Work life and your child
You are the great single dad who takes his responsibilities as a provider very seriously. And you are a definite advocate of the great Italian family modus operandi that its a mans job to put bread on the table. I love that expression, for me it justifies every moment of my working life.
As a Renaissance man and single father, you are aware that your child is waiting in the front of the house for you to pick her up. To you its unthinkable to ever say, Honey, I cant come pick you up because daddys working.
You comprehend that her expectations for the men she invites into her life will be built upon the type of man you present to her. If she doesnt expect that youll come through for her at this point, she will likely let idiots into her life later on, because she wont know any different.
Yes, working hard is the essence behind putting food on the table, but you have to know when to turn off the computer and turn to your child.
Work life and your love life
For women, the nest is everything. And it’s time to recognize that no matter what you do or what you say, the woman you are involved with is condensing it down to one question, How will what he’s saying or doing impact the nest that I’ve built or one day plan to have?
Whether its about how you live, what car you drive, what food you enjoy or how you relate to other people, its always about the nest. Keep in mind that, and youll always understand a womans motivations.
At the same time, she will also need your undivided attention when it comes to your dating life, which, for all intents and purposes, means listening. And so therein is the great challenge: When do you focus on working to build her a nest and when do you turn off everything business in order to simply listen to her? The answer to this question depends on the woman you are dating, so do your best to gauge what she wants and when she wants it.
Nurturing your child
While he was growing up, I ended every night with my son in the same way: By saying, Noah, daddy loves you. Then, I’d kiss his forehead and as I exited his doorway, I turned back and said directly to him, If you need me, you know where I am. I played out this traditional goodnight for 15 consecutive years because I wanted my son to know that he was loved deeply before his day ended.
I needed him to know that I would never be far away. Single-parent guilt? Perhaps. But mostly I wanted him to know that I thought he was the most significant person in the world and I wanted him to wake up the next day believing the same thing. Its called liking yourself, and it’s the first step on your childs road to success in love and work.
Nurturing your love life
For me, intimacy is about reveling in perfect moments, like when your child says Youre the best daddy in the world or that last big chord on Abbey Road.
Heres a great way to try simple closeness: Forget saying I love you the next time youre out with someone you love and forget saying Baby, you turn me on so much I just want you in bed with me. Instead, quietly turn to your gal and simply say this: I like you. I really like you. I just wanted to tell you that. Go ahead, try it, and see what happens when you take the time to express a simple moment of closeness with your gal.
Domestic chores as a dad
I dont know about you, but I hate having to keep my house clean with extreme prejudice. Its like working out: Its all painful until youre done and can reap the benefits. Its not that I want to pretend Im exclusively dedicated in this regard, hardly, but there is something that makes raising a child in a clean home that much better.
I feel satisfied knowing that my sons feet are treading on a clean floor and that his room smells good. I feel great pleasure when he climbs into clean sheets and puts his head on his pillow case. It makes me feel civilized, I know that its healthier for him and when hes all grown up, I know he wont make a frat house out of his home. Of course, by then hell also keep in mind my mantra: For women, its all about the nest.
Domestic chores as a lover
Have you ever seen a birds nest that wasnt perfect? And you know whos most responsible for building said nest? Thats right, its Mrs. Bird. And its likely that the woman youre either seeing or interested in now possesses the exact same qualities as Mrs. Bird.
Why exercise improves your life as a dad and a boyfriend.?
True, you may still be in the sex-all-the-time phase, but make no mistake my friend, if shes a good woman, within an hour of her orgasm shell be looking around to take in the quality of your nest. And so I ask you, what condition is your nest in now? Is it in good enough shape for her to consider living in it? If you really like this woman and potentially see a future with her, I would see whether any twigs need replacing.
Staying fit for your child
Ill pass the torch to my son when I am good and ready, thank you. Until then, I plan to beat him in the 100 meter dash and throw the baseball with him as best as I can. I also want to scale Mount Kilimanjaro with him, and that means surviving an 18,000-foot climb. In other words, I dont just want to live as daddy, I want to feel totally alive as daddy.
I want to live life big time, and share as many physical activities as I can with my child for as long as possible. For that to happen, I need to be strong and I need to keep working out. I have to tell you, that at my age, 52, that means screaming out on occasion, I cant stand the pain.
Staying fit for your gal
Women like muscles and stamina end of story (Oh wait, its good for you too).
Double the fun
Ah yes, the duality of being a great single dad while trying to craft a love life for yourself. The quest never seems to end as your one brain does the work of two minds and your two hands take on tasks that would require way more than you have at your disposal. But as I said before, just keep the points we just discussed in mind, plan out your time and responsibilities in each role, and learn to live a happy life as a single man and a single father
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