Do You Know How To Have Closure In Relationships?
By Jane Hatton
One of the greatest events in life is having a relationship. Having a relationship can make you reflective and it make you sad. It’s all part of being in the relationship and how you work through things.
Things start getting tough when one partner or the other feels they can’t cope or can’t work with issues that need to be faced. It becomes time for a major life adjustment if push comes to shove about issues facing the relationship. If the separation of the relationship is permanent then you’ll have to know to have closure in relationships.
A lot of times people never get around to finally closing out a past relationship and it wears on their mind for the longest time. Until there is a closure on any past relationship you won’t be able to go forward in life emotionally. Closure is a necessary part of life in order for you to get on with yours.
My take on closure on relationships is to have it one way or the other. Either try and get the relationship back together or close that chapter of your life and go forward. Don’t be in the middle of trying to figure out a lot of what ifs.
It’s been proven that won’t work. You’ll drive yourself crazy and make everyone around you miserable. Understanding that closure is a process rather than a one time project might be easier to understand.
If you have definitely made the decision to call off the relationship then it’s time for you to take action. This action will be a series of steps that I will outline below that will help you overcome the emotional trauma that a closure in relationships can bring.
The reason that these steps are necessary is because if the relationship has been fulfilling in the past it’s very hard to let go. I know it hurts and even more if there was no final goodbye. No final letter, no final phone call. The closure seemed abrupt and it shouldn’t have been.
If there is no possibility for the relationship to get back again then it’s time for you to get well. We’ll talk later on about finding out if this is really a permanent break or just a hiatus.
Make sure that you are not in a state of denial. Not realizing what the facts are will only make your life worse. Each and every day you will wonder why something happened if you could have changed it. Forget about it. You need to follow some steps that I now finally will reveal to you.
These steps will help you finalize the relationship and help you come back stronger emotionally. You’ll be in control of yourself and if you want an opportunity to find out what really went wrong with the relationship you’ll have a chance at that.
#1 Write a letter.
You need to write a special letter. Write a letter letting go of all your inner feelings. Write a letter to your partner letting him or her know how cruel they were to you. Let out whatever you’ve been feeling inside of you. It doesn’t matter what you say as long as you write it down. When you’re done with that letter go ahead and sign and date it.
Now burn it. Yes I mean burn it. By writing down your thoughts on paper makes something magical happen to you. You have released your thoughts to the universe and now it’s out in the open. This is not voodoo stuff but stuff that works. By writing your thoughts allows your mind to become free.
You’ve written everything down that you wanted and burned it. You feel better now don’t you?
#2 Forgive.
Easier said than done. Especially if you’ve been wronged. Because life is short we can’t let one relationship dictate what the rest of our lives could and should be. No matter whom the person was we can’t let one person determine our future. People are at different levels of maturity and everyone has to understand that aspect of life.
Sometimes people aren’t ready for a commitment. Sometimes they aren’t ready to be at a level that you want them too. It doesn’t matter. Learning how to forgive is a highly desirable trait to have and if you can pull this off then you are almost guaranteed a bright future.
Following these two basic steps will at least make you feel better about yourself if you follow them. The sooner you do this the better off you will be.
You need to take control of your life and show who is in charge and master of the game.
It’s your turn to make your life as prosperous and happy as you can.
Once you have your emotions under control you can slowly touch bases again and see if there is any possibility of reconciliation. If not, so be it. If it is to be then great. You’ve trekked a long ways in this world in finding yourself. You have found closure in relationships so that you can go on your way with your own life.
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