Online Dating: As Long As You’re Here, You Might As Well Have Fun!
By Tai Lopez
Too many people in online dating simply go through the motions, put up a profile, and then sit there watching and waiting. Nothing happens, so they get discouraged and wander off. This is the equivalent of getting invited to a fun party, then standing up against the wall with a warm drink in your hand all night, brooding and not joining in. No wonder you’re not meeting anybody!
We see this over and over again, even in elite dating sites, even with people who are looking to date a millionaire or take out a supermodel. They’re out there, they’re looking for you, but they aren’t going to just fall into your lap!
Online dating does make things more automatic - merely being there increases your chances of finding someone. The only problem is when you hang around like a candy bar in a vending machine, waiting to get bought. Here are some tips to get you mixing with the group, taking full advantage of what the dating site has to offer.
1. Flirt! Those features such as “blow a kiss” or “send someone a wink” are there for a reason: get things started! Don’t be shy about it. You’re just doing the cyber equivalent of a friendly wave which you would make to any stranger in public. We promise that nobody you wink to is going to blast you in the face with pepper spray or start beating you with her purse.
2. Keep logging in. One of the first things prospective dating partners look at on a profile is the date of your last visit to the site. If you haven’t been here for three months, people assume you’re no longer interested. Log in at least every 48 hours. How much trouble is it to click a bookmark in your web browser every two days, after all?
3. Jump into the community. If there’s a discussion group, dive in. If there’s interest groups, find one that features an activity you like and join it. And if members can start their own blog, by all means fire one up. These are all good opportunities for people to get to know you, and for you to express yourself beyond just being a shadowy figure with a profile. Some prospective partners might want to read a lot of what’s on your mind before they decide if you’re interesting enough to check out further.
4. It’s a social site - maybe try to be sociable? For instance, how about responding to every message, even if it’s only to say “Thanks, I’m not interested!” Maybe even tell them why, if you can do so in a nice way. Maybe you can help them improve their style. Who knows, you might even make a friend or two! And in the other site communication features, such as the interest groups or blogs, try to be civil in your comments. This is not the place to get into big arguments, no matter how urgent your opinions on some matter are. When faced with confrontation, just smile, say, “I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.” and move along.
5. Every now and then, update your profile. Maybe do something fun and original, like post a holiday-themed photo when it’s seasonal, or drop in a paragraph or two about what you’re up to lately. Remember, if somebody’s interested in you, they’re likely to check your profile a number of times while they make up their mind about you. Keeping them interested just might be the next step to getting them to contact you!
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